The strongest single factor in prosperity consciousness is self-esteem: believing you can do it, believing you deserve it, believing you will get it.- Jerry Gillies
Self-esteem refers to how you think and feel about yourself. These are thoughts and feelings you have about yourself, these may it be positive, negative, or mixed — about one’s own self. The more positive these thoughts and feelings are, the higher your self-esteem, and conversely the more negative these thoughts and feelings are, the lower your self-esteem will become.
Feeling good about yourself is important as it gives you a sense of control over your life.
It can also help you feel more satisfied in a relationship. With a positive self-identity, a person is able to set realistic expectations for yourself and pursue goals important to you. Having a negative self-perception, on the other hand, results in a distorted view of one’s self, which leads to further lack of self-confidence, poor performance, and can lead to depression.
In recent times, low self-esteem has been one of the most popular and frequently invoked psychological explanations for behavioral and social problems. Taking their cue from social commentators and media opinion leaders, people have been willing to accept that a limited sense of self-worth lies behind just about every social and personal ill from drug abuse and delinquency to poverty and business failures. The result has been a huge market for self-help manuals and educational programs.
People who have low self-esteem rely heavily on their day-to-day performances.
The positive external experience and encouragements help them to battle the negative feelings that they have about themselves. These negative feelings very often troubled people with low self-esteem. In some situations, feelings of inadequacy torture those who do not have enough confidence in themselves and about what they can do.
There are many known ways to improve your self-esteem. To boost your confidence, it may be helpful to practice the following self-improvement techniques and strategies:
- Rebutting the inner critic that keeps on sending self-defeating messages;
- Practicing the art of self-nurturing; and
- Getting much-needed help and support from people who are close to you.
The first and the most important step to increase your self-esteem is to tell that inner voice in your mind to “shut up”.
The inner voice might say something negative, like “you’re too old to do that” “what will people say” “you’re so broken” “ you’re so stupid”. You MUST learn to stop those thoughts in their tracks and replace them with positive thoughts. Rebutting the inner voice that keeps on criticizing you needs to be done regularly until it becomes the norm in your mind chatter. However, this step is not enough to develop self-esteem.
The second step that you must initiate on a way to a healthy self-esteem is that a person should nurture themselves. The most important part of this step is to start treating yourself as a person who is worthwhile. Every human is worthwhile and important. There is no one like you on this earth and you are unique!
Seek out people who make you feel good.
Remember that you get to choose your friends so why not choose people who think you’re great? You also get to extricate yourself from your family if they are a negative impact on your life. Life is too short to be limited by the beliefs other people have of you. As the old saying goes “its none of your business what other people think of you”
Moreover, both individual and group counselling can help improve self-esteem. Such therapy might include assertiveness training, communication skills, and learning to recognise and understand own emotional responses in relation to others. Therapy may also explore early and later experiences that contributed to your low self-esteem. Group therapy is particularly effective that it helps to foster trust and build relationships, and encourages a sense of belonging-components that are important for building self esteem.
Low and poor self-esteem is often the result of bad or a wrong treatment that was experienced in the past. Hence you must start regarding yourself as a worthy person. You must be able to challenge negative experiences in the past and you need to start loving yourself.
Try to change yourself and show to the outside world that you are valuable, competent, and a loveable person.
Learn to develop high self-esteem and believe you can do it, you deserve it, and you are worthy of living life with purpose and passion.