There’s a lot of ‘chatter’ on social media about Tony Robbins at the moment and love him or hate him here’s my two cents for what its worth.
He makes a lot of money by being a self-help “guru”. I don’t have an issue with making lots of money. When that allows you to have powerful teams of lawyers behind you, that shut down any negativity and stop reports of anything bad, I begin to worry.
“Absolute power corrupts absolutely”! When he speaks from his rich white male privileged platform, it again causes me concern. His treatment and words to women, cause me concern. I think he’s a bully! Whilst his methods have worked for millions, I’m not sure that similar results couldn’t be gained from others using less emotional duress.
Buzz feed summary
This from Buzz Feed resonates particularly with me…
“During the reporting of this story, Lavely & Singer launched what it called an “extensive” counter-investigation to make legal threats against two people accused of speaking with BuzzFeed News. One received a letter warning that if he did not retract what he had told reporters, his life would “be forever changed.” The other was told that he had 48 hours to recant his story or face damages which could “easily be tens of millions of dollars.”
When BuzzFeed News sent Robbins a letter seeking his comment eight days before publication, Lavely & Singer said it had not been given enough time to respond fully, but accused the reporters of pursuing a “predetermined” narrative against Robbins “as part of their ‘Me Too’ Agenda.” The firm threatened legal action that would have a “devastating impact on the financial condition of BuzzFeed and its investors.””
All about image protection
So, yes, protect your image by all means, but where there is smoke, there IS always fire. Perhaps its time that his “followers” stood back and analysed all that is being said – if someone other than Tony Robbins said those things would they be acceptable?
Would you still agree if the words were from Mr bogan on the street? I think not? Just because someone is rich, white and famous, does not a good leader make.
People need to look at his words and actions in a critical manner and examine how he makes them feel – if he causes you to feel shame (I am bad) then he is not the guru for you, if you are inclined to feel guilty then perhaps he is for you.
Shame vs guilt
Shame is “I am bad” and this is directly correlated with negativity, self-doubt and is maladaptive, not helpful. Whereas guilt can be adaptive and helpful in changing bad habits and patterns, creating self-analysis and self-awareness.
All I ask is that you don’t support him just because he’s Tony Robbins, support him because what he says is right. He has a duty of care to the world for the power we give him and a responsibility to act and say things in a manner which helps people and does not cause further self-destruction.
I think he’s about to suffer a powerful fall from grace and that may actually bring about his greatest work.