In this week’s Blog, the final in
the series “The DNA of resilience” is the concept of responsibility.
How does having responsibility build resilience in our lives?
What is resilience?
Resilience, in psychological terms, is the ability to cope with a crisis or the ability to return to a pre-crisis status quickly, according to Wikipedia. If you have a resilient personality or you consider you are a resilient person; you use “mental processes and behaviours” that protect yourself from potential negative stresses in your life.
What does this really mean? You can remain calm in a crisis, or a chaotic situation and you can move past an incident without negative long term consequences. That’s a powerful skill to learn and use in your life, don’t you agree?
If you are faced with a crisis or an adverse condition or situation, there are three ways you can approach this.
- You can erupt with anger
- You might implode with overwhelming negative emotions, go numb, and become unable to react
- Or you could simply become upset about the crisis in your life.
The third approach is the only one that promotes well-being. Resilient people, who become upset about the crisis in their life, change their thinking and behaviour to cope with the issue. The first and second approaches lead people to adopt the victim role by blaming others and rejecting any coping methods even after the crisis is over.
Responsibility is the willingness to be accountable for our choices. Others can depend on us to do what we say we will do, and they know that we will give our best effort to the things we undertake. We are reliable, we make mistakes, and we dare to change for the betterment of ourselves. It is important to discern what responsibility belongs to us, and what belongs to others. Resilient people find solutions and make amends. They rarely use excuses when they make mistakes. We can respond quickly.
What is personal responsibility?
Taking personal responsibility for your thoughts and actions is seen as being resilient. It may be a simple deep breathing exercise to calm yourself and settle your brain and thoughts. This may not be enough to achieve the effect you would like, and you may need to employ a stronger technique to achieve the desired effect. Practice mindfulness and use it to restore the equilibrium in that moment of crisis.
According to Jeff Senne, some characteristics define resilient people, and we have discussed most of these in previous blogs. They include optimism, vision and social support;
“My life is an influence on every life mine touches. I realize it or not, I am responsible and accountable for that influence.” – Ron Baron
The Practice of Responsibility
- I am accountable for what I do.
- Others can rely on me.
- I keep my agreements.
- I give excellence to all that I do.
- I focus on my own part, not someone else’s.
- I make amends for my mistakes.
Definition of Psychological Responsibility
Psychological Responsibility is the responsibility of each individual. It is understood that you will let
nce a situation is identified,
The aim is for the individual to remain psychologically well.
It should be our individual aim that our own behaviours
Benefits of Psychological Responsibility
Psychological Responsibility heightens individual awareness of the ways in which people behave and the actions they take.
The practice of taking responsibility for our own actions and the recognition of others behaviours and actions build’s our resilience to life.