In last week’s Blog, we talked about resilience and optimism. Next in the Blog series “The DNA of resilience” is a vision. How does having a vision play into building resilience in our lives?
So what is vision?
According to dictionary vision is “ the ability to think about or plan the future with imagination or wisdom.” Words of similar meaning include imagination, creativity, creative power, inventiveness, innovation, inspiration, intuition, perceptiveness, perception, breadth of view, foresight, insight, farsightedness, prescience, discernment, awareness, shrewdness and cleverness. What a wonderful collection of descriptive words isn’t it? How do these wonderful words convert to a life lived more resiliently? Keep reading as I explain.
When people know what they believe in and have a clear idea of what they want to accomplish or create in their lives, they are more resilient. Those people that chose to create a personal vision or mission statement have a guide to assist them through the challenges of life. A personal mission statement or vision statement gives them hope for the future and something to aim for.
A clear, appealing vision, consistently pursued, communicated in jargon-free language, should effectively position you to guide the big life decision that you make. So my mission statement goes something like this:
My Mission Statement
My mission in life to live life abundantly, to raise my two children to and through adulthood and to create beauty within myself and others, with humility and love.
I use my mission statement to make sure my life aligns with any important decision I have to make. I ask myself the following questions.
- Does this decision align with my mission in life?
- Does the decision help
fulfillmy mission in life?
- Am I serving my best purpose by making this call?
- Does this person align with my mission in life
Do you see how a personal vision or mission statement, can assist you and guide you?
The inner Game of Work
As Timothy Gallwey writes in The Inner Game of Work: If you have a clear vision of where you want to go, you are not as easily distracted by the many possibilities and agendas that otherwise divert you. Furthermore, a compelling personal vision statement can illuminate our way in periods of darkness. It can inspire us to shed all the stuff that holds us back.
What Robert H Schuller says.
To quote the late American televangelist and motivational speaker Robert H. Schuller, “What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?” Repeat, “what would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?” One more time, “what would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?”
“One of the first exercises I do with clients is to have them envision their ideal life as if money was no option as if a fairy godmother granted them every wish and they woke up in the morning to find that they’ve all come true. This helps shift them out of a fear-based, conditioned world, out of pessimism and into possibilities, into what could be.”
Questions to Ask Yourself
- What are ten things that you most enjoy doing? These are the ten things without which your weeks, months, and years would feel incomplete.
- What three things must you do every single day to feel fulfilled in your work/life?
- What are your five most important values?
- Write one important goal for each of the following facets of your life: physical, spiritual, work or career, family, social relationships, financial security, mental improvement and attention, and fun.
- If you never had to work another day in your life, how would you spend your time instead of working?
- When your life is ending, what will you regret not doing, seeing, or achieving?
- What are your strengths have other and accomplishments?
- Do you have particular strengths and what are they?
- What are your weaknesses?
Now Develop Your Vision Statement
Once you have thoughtfully prepared answers to these questions, you are ready to write down a personal vision statement. Write in the first person and make statements about the future you hope to achieve.
Write the statements as if you are already making them happen in your life. Use wording such as “see” ‘feel” “hear” and “know” e.g. I feel the warmth of the morning sun as I walk along the beach today and know that my business is generating income without me.
Fully articulate the vision that you want for your life and your future. The more detailed you make your image, the better you can see it in your mind’s eye. Some experts suggest 50 words or less but my vision statement is a whole A4 page, and I read it every day.
What Brian Tracy Says
According to motivational speaker and writer Brian Tracy, you generally accomplish your written goals, dreams, plans, and visions/mission. By writing down your goals, vision or mission statement you are more likely to accomplish them because written words lend power and commitment to their accomplishment.
Keep in mind that your vision statement can also change over time, depending on what is happening in your life. You might be amazed at how many components remain consistent over time.
Four reasons why we struggle to formulate our vision statement
- First, there’s cultural conditioning. From early education onward, we have been conditioned to make life decisions based on a limited range of options. We make choices based on what’s in front of us; what we believe to be available to us. Creating a vision demands that we draw from an infinite range of choices. This process can make us uncomfortable, but allow this feeling, sit with it and then keep going.
- Second, visualization is a skill. Visualization is also like a muscle, an imagination muscle if you like. Unfortunately for most of the population, stopped using this muscle in our childhood. It’s still there, but you need to exercise it. Again visualizing the future may be uncomfortable for some people but give it a try anyway. For some people, they will try to explain that its impossible to do, I’m telling you that that is simply a belief, one that is ungrounded and untrue. Besides, the more we visualize, the better we get at creating from our imagination.
- Third, we’re afraid. Fear is what stops you achieving your heart desires, and most of them are unfounded. We’re afraid we may not succeed. We question our competence, our ability to persevere. We are uncertain of our value: are we worthy of dreaming big. If you begin to see life as unlimited possibilities you begin to live life through limitless possibilities.
- We get “stuck” on the idea that it has to be perfect. We need to get over the idea that life is perfect, it isn’t, and it isn’t meant to be. Just as long as your vision is truly what you want in your life, it does not need to be a perfectly crafted statement.
Vision is a roadmap to growth.
In closing how does all this link with building resilience? It gives you purpose, hope and a point in life to aim for, a visionary point for you to reach. If you are always striving for something life has meaing and a life with maning and purpuse is a resielint one.
Till next Week